Yes, it is possible, you can absolutely get what you want by using your body, and I don’t mean stripping down and standing under a red light pulling selfie faces at all the passers by…. That would be disgusting, so no, don’t do that, ever, please, ever.
The power of body language is so real, and can effect our personal and our business lives, think about the last time you read a whatsapp, email, sms and totally got the wrong end of the stick because you could not see the whole message, ie, all you saw was the text, you didn’t know the senders attitude, mind state, and because you cant see the sender you didn’t know “how” the message was sent, PLUS because of your state of mind at the time of receiving that message, you could have read it in an angry tone because some twit had just tried to cut you off on the highway……
The scary part is the teeny tiniest part of any message is the words, the rest is made up with tone, and body language and pauses and how we use our voice to get the message across, crazy hay!
Now for the fun part I am going to show you some easy ways to make your messages better, more direct and teach you a trick or two to increase your confidence before delivering the message. And thus giving you the tools to help get what you want!
The power pose, we going to super man/ wonder woman it people. Sorry to tell you this girls, but the reason men always come across as more confident, turns out it is because of the levels of testosterone in their systems, but there is a simple way to increase the testosterone levels in our girl systems too, have you heard about …
“fake it till you make it”
That, darling, is kind of what happens here, there have been many many scientific studies to prove all of this , so I am not doing a thumb suck here at all and I will add some links at the end that you can go and listen for yourself. Basically what they are saying is that whatever you tell your body to do, you mind will support it by producing and sending out the right chemical mix of goodness (we all staying positive here)
The next time you are heading into a nerve wracking experience or need a confidence boost. Sneak off somewhere and pull the wonder woman/ super man pose for two minutes. That is…
Hands on hips
Feet more than hip width apart
That’s right, you know you are awesome!
Geez, wonder woman takes her inspiration from you, dosen't she!?!?!
Try this too, the next time you talk to someone, fact them, point your toes at them to make you are face them properly … it shows them that you are engaged in them and not wanting to run away.
If you want to come across as trustworthy and likable, then do the following
Eye contact, maintain as much eye contact as possible, now I am not saying stare the other human down as if you are John Wayne, no no… just watch the other person as the both of you chat away, it shows you are interested and you want to hear what they have to say…
If you are not interested and they are irritating the sh@#*^#$t out of you, then look away, smile at other people while they walk past, write yourself beautifully crafted letters on the floor with your toes, check and answer your phone (they all smart but I often wonder about the operators of the phones… hee hee hee) and I can practically guarantee, that person will pick up on your disinterest almost immediately!
Your hands, show your hands, crossed arms, hands hidden under a table, hands in the pockets are all signals, in varying degrees, of disinterest and untrustworthiness (gosh that is a long word, and I spelt it correctly first time! Yay me) also…
And this too has scientific backing, the way you use your hands adds too or takes abay from your overall message…. Open palms facing up shows openness, honesty and friendliness, same message with palms open and facing down becomes more instructive, as if you are telling people what to do but in an open style or manor…
Pointing or fists closed, I am sure you can work this one out…. Demanding, dictating, anger, argumentative, and again, I can almost guarantee that the facial expressions will be just as harsh.
make your facial expressions match your words, this will make you much more creditable, and on your sentences, don’t end every sentence in an upwards tone, it makes every sentence sound like a question and you sound… well…. Clueless darling. Rather make your tone go down at the end to tell them you know what you are meaning and talking about.
Now go and have fun, keep practicing and you will be acing it all in no time I cant wait to hear about your success stories, you can either leave a comment below or email me, firstname.lastname@example.org